As I sit here writing this newsletter I know that my life will never be the same and is ready to explode into the possibilities I have been patiently waiting for. I know I am at a turning point in my life and I decide the path. And it all culminated with the question, “Do You Like Me?”
In my business intensive, my coach pointed out that my need to be liked kept me at times from honoring my truth and saying who I am and what I do at the level that is in integrity with me in my business. I was playing small, and hiding. Even though I have worked this issue, it comes up. You see, this is something that is my greatest gift and my greatest challenge. I teach others to love themselves so they can show up to their purpose, their family, and their business in a bigger way. And at times I don’t say what I do because of the need to be liked.
This week is about being bigger, bolder, and dreaming your life from one of passion, purpose, and power.
Are you ready? Are you ready for your transformation? To live your life from a place of balance of both the personal and the professional?
If so, read on.
So many of us go through life and are unaware of how our unmet needs at times affect every part of our life. And until we are aware of them, we will be bound by them at peak times in our life. Last week, I came face to face, AGAIN ?, with my unmet need to be liked or loved. I was at the mike at my coaching intensive telling everyone how I did not fully enjoy an event I had presented at because it was a group I wasn’t used to being in as much. My coach asked me if I had told everyone what I saw for them, and I had to acknowledge that I did with some and not with all. The reason….my need to be liked.
Her comment to me was powerful. I did not fully show up with my gifts and therefore was not happy. It doesn’t matter where we are. When we are in true alignment with who we are, and can fully express it at all times with no apologies, then we are having fun, and we are serving in the highest way possible. She continued to say how I let some of the people manipulate me into not fully showing up. In that moment, by not speaking up, I had placed myself as victim! Yikes! Here it was in my face.
And at that moment of realization, something shifted. I knew I would not let that happen again. I made a decision that I would fully show up. And since that moment, I have been reminded from countless people of the gifts that I have. Of the transformation I have helped people to have in a short amount of time.
The title of this newsletter is one of vulnerability. I’m writing it to show you that we all have pieces within to work through. I don’t need you to like me in order to do my business and to speak my truth. I do what I do because I know deep within that this is my purpose, my dharma, my gift. And when I worry about how everyone sees it, then I am not fully showing up.
For some of you, the need to be loved is one of your unmet needs, and for others it might be different. It could be the need to look good, to be right, to be loved, to be praised, to be recognized, to be the hero, to be smart, and the list goes on. Once you are aware of that need you can shift it in your business and your life. How can you use this as your message to others? To use it as fuel to get you to where you want to go? That’s what I do and help others to do.
As I write this, I think of the book Jonathan Livingston Seagull and the quote,
“You have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now, and nothing can stand in your way”.”
As you step up to your true self, your true divinity, you learn to soar. Just like Jonathan had to let go of how others viewed him, he saw his own gift and learned that he was not limited. He saw freedom.
My wish for you all is that you can experience your own personal freedom, joy, peace, power to be who you are and claim it to the world. My wish for you….is that you learn to SOAR!
P.S. Look at the bird on the foam of my latte in this picture. Who said messages don’t come from unlikely places?
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