Last week, like many of you, I felt an incredible drain of energy. I slept a lot, and had to focus on myself to bring my energy level up. At the time, I wasn’t aware of what was going on. Then I realized how I had the illusion that I had to do it all. I am able to do a lot of things fairly well, even those things that don’t jazz me so much. I noticed that I was doing it all, kind of the super woman effect. And at the same time I was completely drained. I learned another deep lesson of boundaries. I constantly work on it, and find myself being challenged with new awareness each time. I love to help people, and realized that I was very invested in the results that they had. Yes, I do great work for people, however, I’m not responsible for the results. If the people don’t do what they need to do for themselves, the results aren’t as profound. So, why did I do this? I could say that it was because I love to help and that’s who I am. That’s only part. The other one is that when people feel good, they let me know. And I feel good and validated. So, the boundary is knowing that I do make a difference, and I let go of how that looks like for the person receiving.
This had rippled out into many personal relationships, as well as my business. Since then, I have figured out my boundaries. And also, asked for a lot more help in areas that are not my passion. I can do that now with ease, because I understand the root cause that was there all along. My need to be valued. And I know, and I teach, we must first value ourselves. That which we teach, is what we are learning always at a different and higher level.
Have fun looking at what illusion held you back and how you can empower yourself to go that next level in your journey, in your learning.
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